At some point, it is likely you have encountered the feeling of being directly responsible for a companion’s spiritual “growth” or “progress” – a perfectly normal and common feeling, but one that we spend a lifetime learning to set aside. We know that progress comes from within, and we trust the agency of the one we are companioning. And yet, we sometimes struggle with allowing this process to unfold at its own pace, and feel some need to “nudge Spirit along” a bit quicker.
For example, ask yourself:
- Have you ever left a direction session wondering if you talked too much? Or offered advice that in retrospect felt overbearing or perhaps unnecessary?
- Do you ever feel responsible for helping someone “move forward” or “grow closer” in their relationship with God, the Universe, or however that person names the ground of their being?
- Do you ever find yourself feeling anxious about bringing appropriate “effort” to your practice? Or how about an inner desire to be thought of as a “good” spiritual companion? And does this ever interfere with your yearning to be more deeply present in your companioning service to others?
What helps us become the kind of presence another person truly needs? Conversely, it might be that doing less offers more.
The Tao, meaning “the Way,” is an ancient Chinese wisdom tradition that teaches us to live and accompany others with greater presence, balance, and trust.
The wisdom of the Tao offers surprisingly practical guidance for becoming a calmer, more spacious companion—one who listens deeply, trusts the unfolding process, and creates room for transformation without forcing it.
We’re offering a 3-part webinar series with experienced teacher Scott McRae, now beginning August 20th, to help you discover how you can:
- stay grounded when a conversation feels stuck
- be a listener without rushing toward solutions
- accompany people through uncertainty with greater ease
- recognize when “doing less” actually creates more room for spiritual growth
- deepen your own contemplative life so your presence becomes your greatest gift
- integrate Taoist wisdom regardless of your own faith tradition
Hear from facilitator Scott McRae, experienced and passionate teacher of spiritual companions, on this process in the video below.
May you live with more calm, greater presence, balance, and trust.
The SDI Staff
