Lo que hace un Buen Director Espiritual


Rev. Seifu Singh-Molares

We are all spiritually hungry. We all need someone to talk with us. To journey with us. To give us the courage, to give us the incentive, to give us the inspiration. And that's what a spiritual director is. That's what we do.

Editor’s note: The executive director of Spirtual Directors International, Rev. Seifu Anil Singh-Molares, wrote a version of this piece for the SDI newsletter “Listen”  in 2017. The response from our membership was so positive and strong we wanted to share it here in hopes of widening the discussion and hearing more from the community. Please let us know what your answer is below in the comments. (And for context on the above quote — check out the cool 4-minute video with Rev. Vaccariello.

What is a spiritual director/ spiritual companion?

One question, many answers.

The term “spiritual director” has many associations and a long history in the Abrahamic faiths traditions, where it has been closely associated with certain strands of Judaism, with spiritual directors referred to as Hashpa’ah o Mashpaiâ” (depending on the strand); Christian and, much later, in particular Ignatian spirituality; and in the Islamic Sufi path, where the spiritual director is known as a Murshid. But even within these traditions there is great (and increasing) variability in how the terms are used, defined, and contextualized. The common approach that they share is that in all of them, the spiritual director is a spiritual companion who looks to engage with seekers in an open and non-judgmental way, steeped in contemplative practice and deep listening, to provide guidance and enable seekers to get closer to God.

In Hinduism, Sikhism, Jainism and Vajrayana Buddhism, spiritual teachers or guides are referred to as “gurus,” which in Sanskrit means “weighty or grave,” with the connotation of “elder teacher” or “esteemed teacher.” But the long story of that term contains overtones of someone who removes spaces and obstacles that may lie between us and our spiritual evolution. Gurus can develop highly personalized relationships with seekers, with a dynamic that is distinct to each teacher but that is deep and all pervasive.

In most strands of Buddhism, it is more common to refer to spiritual “friends,” rather than to “directors,” “guides,” or even “teachers.” These friends encourage and allow us to evolve, such that the Buddha was reported to have said that spiritual friendship is the sum total of the spiritual life (in the Meghiya Sutta of the Pali Canon). Spiritual friends help seekers by fostering intimacy; virtuous conduct; conversation that inspires and encourages practice; diligence, energy, and enthusiasm for the good; and insight into impermanence. Spiritual friends, therefore, are the most important key in the spiritual path.

Otros ejemplos incluyen seguidores de religiones indígenas, que generalmente trabajan con chamanes, o taoístas y confucianos, que aprenden a conectarse con su verdadera naturaleza a través de maestros sabios y eruditos

Finally, a significant portion of the over 1.1 billion people worldwide that the Pew Research Center refers to as “unaffiliated,” many of whom describe themselves as “spiritual but not religious,” seek connection with a higher power and a larger meaning in variety of ways: for example, by working with philosophy teachers as their guides, or through their work with psychologists, and other types of counselors.

Given all of this, how are we to approach the issue of who qualifies as a “spiritual director/companion/guide/teacher/friend/counselor/advisor?”

He aquí algunas ideas

First, spiritual direction/ companionship should be an inclusive, rather than an exclusive concept. It should always strive to welcome and invite, rather than to separate and divide, which it does on occasion, often unwittingly.

Second, at their roots, spiritual directors are individuals committed to helping others seek and find connection with a higher power, however that power might be defined. This characteristic always holds true, regardless of the particular spiritual configuration or orientation of the directors and seekers.

At a recent retreat of the I had with the SDI Coordinating Council, we identified some other key factors to look for in authentic spiritual directors, namely that they be:

  • rooted in personal experience, and display “depth.”
  • willing to follow universal ethical guidelines, summarized as “Do no harm.”
  • ser responsable en un entorno comunitario.
  • committed to contemplative, compassionate listening, with respect for the agency of directees.
  • supervised by other spiritual directors and accountable through that direct supervision.
  • Comprometerse co la educación y aprendizaje continuos.

What do you think? What characteristics do you see as essential in a spiritual guide? As SDI strives to broaden its spiritual director public square, your thoughts are most encouraged and welcome.

Please write your response in the comments. And thank you for listening to your own spirit as you engage here. We are a community that thrives as each member shares his or her experience and wisdom.

Rev. Seifu Singh-Molares

Rev. Seifu Singh-Molares

Rev. Seifu is the Executive Director of SDI and an ordained Zen Buddhist priest, as well as a practicing spiritual director/companion and motivational speaker.


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  1. Johanna Binneweg

    Most mature human beings I’ve met seem to glow with joy. Not that they’re giddy or silly–they just have sparkly eyes. They’re compassionate and grave when the situation warrants, but they mostly glow. I think this attribute comes from the deep love they share with their creator.

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